I am a psychologist with extensive experience in marriage counselling, child development and coaching in the corporate world as a consultant. I specialise in human relationships and its influence in every area of a person’s life. I have invaluable experience in the church as a pastor and as a psychologist in private practice. My studies include BA and BD degrees, a Diploma in theology as well as an Honours and a Master’s degree in Psychology.
Tariffs are medical aid tariffs and can be claimed from your medical aid. (I am registered at the Health Professional Counsel of South Africa.)
The cost of a therapy session is R850 between 8am and 5pm. The after hours tariff will be at a “time and a half”. The therapy is payable in advance before beginning each session – cash or by EFT. I will provide a receipt and an invoice to enable you to claim the expense from your medical aid.
Word of God and therapy
I assist individuals of all ages to deal with day-to-day problems in their different life phases in a one-on-one and/or group situation. I also do psycho-training in groups. The Triune God is central in the therapy and together, the client and I, listen to what God’s specific will is for every person’s situation. Christ made it possible for everyone to be a new person. Under the guidance of the Holy Spirit I help people to realise that with the help of the Holy Spirit their problems can change so that they can enjoy a life in abundance.
Experience and knowledge in the following life situations:
Depression and Anxiety
Guiding the identification of a person’s strengths to overcome and manage the current situation.
Evaluate the person’s way of thinking about his or her trauma. Together with the client find ways to cope and facilitate post traumatic growth. Then decide on interventions.
Identifying needs, values, interests, life roles and aptitude. Evaluation of personality, career maturity and decision making abilities.
Parent- child relationship
Using the attachment theory to do parental guidance. Help parents to understand that their words, actions, inner mood, facial expressions and proximity or absence could be a reflection of how valuable their children could experience themselves. When the parents do not manage their emotions in an appropriate manner it could influence the development of the child’s way of handling and regulating his or her emotions. I also do child guidance.
Marriage preparation & enrichment
Research has identified different personality traits which could influence a relationship significantly for example anxiety and emotional stability. In the sessions the similarities and differences of the couple are compared with each other.
- Help them appreciate the fact that there are differences and also to appreciate the many similarities.
- Help them to embrace the differences and to focus on helping each other reach their full potential. Inspire one another.
Help families evaluate their problem solving abilities, communication skills and interactional patterns. The family is also assisted in understanding how dysfunctional patterns influence their problem solving and their communication.
Four huge areas are evaluated:
- Communication and conflict patterns and if both feel emotionally safe in the relationship.
- Are his/her roles and responsibilities clear to both of them? Do they know what they can expect from each other in a social environment?
- The influence of the family of origin on the marriage and partners.
- The similarities and differences in personality, values and interests.
Guide people through the following:
- Help the person to work through the trauma and bad experience of divorce. Overcome hurt, anger, guilt etc.
- Parent with primary care: Making flexible visitation arrangements with ex-spouse and family. Rebuilding own financial resources. Rebuilding own social network.
- Single parent with secondary care: Finding ways to continue effective parenting eg how to guide children in accepting the divorce. Maintaining financial responsibilities to ex-spouse and children. Rebuilding own social network.
- If necessary guide ex-spouse through the above mentioned areas.
The reconstituted family have their own unique problematic situation. Life cycle differences and loyalty conflict develop when they begin to function as a family. A unique therapeutic way of work which considers the complexity of the family is necessary.
Psychological meta theory:
Well-being is a dynamic concept which includes subjective, social, and psychological as well as health focused behaviour.
The following concepts are part of the concept:
Possesses a positive attitude toward the self; acknowledges and accepts multiple aspects of self, including good and bad qualities; feels positive about past life.
- Positive relationships
Has warm, satisfying, trusting relationships with others; is concerned about the welfare of others; capable of strong empathy, affection, and intimacy; understands give and take of human relationships.
Is self-determining and independent; able to resist social pressures to think and act in a certain manner; regulates behaviour from within; evaluates self by personal standards.
- Environmental management
Has a sense of mastery and competence in managing the environment; controls complex array of external activities; makes effective use of surrounding opportunities; able to choose or create contexts suitable to personal needs and standards.
- Purpose in life
Has goals in life and a sense of directedness; feels there is meaning in present and past life; holds beliefs that gives purpose to life; has goals and objectives to work towards.
- Personal growth
Has a feeling of continued development; sees self as growing and developing; is open to new experiences; has sense of recognising his or her potential; sees improvement in self and behaviour over time; changes in ways that reflect more self-knowledge and effectiveness.
In the process of getting attached to people during childhood we develop an internal experience of oneself and of other people which could be either positive or negative. Thinking patterns of the self and other people which was formed through the parent-child relationship are carried forward and influence our thoughts, emotions and behaviours in adult relationships. There is thus a parallel between the parent-child relationship and the two people in a romantic relationship. In fact it could be carried forward to all relationships over the life span. These thinking patterns also influence the way a person interacts with the environment and all aspects of life for example the style of communication, conflict handling and trustworthiness etc.