Stepmothers is one of the key role players in a stepfamily. Due to fairy tales like Cinderella ans Snow White they are often thinking of evil, mean, and cruel while they are often a wonderful mother for the children.
They could have had initially an unrealistic expectation for their new family and try extremely hard to create a close family long before the children are ready. Disappointment and frustration with these new children, along with what is often a very unclear role definition, may make it hard to find for a stepmother to really find her place in this family. But on the end, they are most of the times wonderful mothers for every child in the stepfamily.
Guidance from the Scripture
Ruth 1:16 But Ruth replied, “Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.
Proverbs 31:31 Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.