Avoident

Adults with an avoidant attachment tend to have difficulty with intimacy and close relationships.  These individuals do not invest much emotion in relationships and experience little distress when a relationship ends. They often avoid intimacy by using excuses (such as long work hours) and put a heavy demand on to be independent both physically and emotionally.

If this is the way how you think and act, then you have characteristics of an avoidant/dismissive attachment style. Individuals have positive view of self and a negative view of others. If you are having these characteristics, take heart and know there is a way out.

The secure style is the ideal way and manner to enjoy relationships. Other 3 styles of attachment in relationship are:

Fearful Avoidant (having negative views of self and others).

Preoccupied attachment (individuals have negative views of self and positive views of others).

Secure individuals have positive views of both self and of others.

Next week by God’s grace we will investigate the Secure style in detail; look out for the next post.

Guidance from the Word:

Proverbs 18:1 He who wilfully separates and estranges himself [from God and man] seeks his own desire and pretext to break out against all wise and sound judgment.