It is not always easy to forgive someone who hurt you in a close relationship. It helps to remember that we ourselves are not perfect and hurt people and stand ourselves in position to be forgiven. Perfection eludes us all. We forgive because we want to be free and forgiven by the Lord. In posts to come by God’s grace we will talk about what to do if the offender keeps transgressing.
FREE YOURSELF AND FORGIVE
Certain core characteristics are necessary and will help to forgive. They are:
Mutual respect. Respect means that each person values who the other is and understands the other person’s boundaries.
Trust. Partners should place trust in each other and give each other the benefit of the doubt.
Honesty. Honesty builds trust and strengthens the relationship.
Guidance from Scripture: Ephesians 4:31 – 31
Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behaviour. Instead, be kind to each other, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.