.. but putting boundaries is essential. Especially when the person hurt you over and over. Do not allow any form of abuse irrespective physical, emotional, or spiritually.
For some of us setting boundaries in forgiveness is a form of disobedience.
But we need to learn that our wellbeing matters. We need to know that we deserve to be treated well and with respect by others. We must also learn how to speak for ourselves. The essence of a boundary is “here what is ok with me, and here is what is not ok for me”. So how do boundaries look like. Here are a few examples:
- It is ok to say no!
- Each person is responsible for their own feelings, actions and believes.
- It is ok for someone to feel angry, but it is not okay for anyone to lash out on you!
Guidance from the Word:
1 Corinthians 7:23 AMPC
You were bought with a price [purchased with a preciousness and paid for by Christ]; then do not yield yourselves up to become [in your own estimation] slaves to men [but consider yourselves slaves to Christ].
Romans 14:12 AMPC
And so each of us shall give an account of himself [give an answer in reference to judgment] to God.
My passion is to help people to be free of offence and bitterness, and to help them forgive and let go of the pain of the past.